Reclining Beauty - Fritz Zuber Buhler, 19th century
— Dave Hickey in Pirates and Farmers: Essays on Taste
about me: in my time off from reading, writing, and looking at art, i read, write, and look at art.
Anonymous asked: Yr not queer if you're a white passing cishet person who has only been in long relationships with white cishet dudes. I don't think you understand what queer means, which turns into it being used as a buzzword.
i appreciate your opinion, and i apologize if you feel wronged that i have appropriated the term in a way you deem unfair. first of all, i dont think of myself as or call myself straight/het. i’m also a little annoyed that you seem to be asking me to justify my sexual identity. if it means anything to you, know that i use the term queer very consciously and i’m familiar with “what queer means” through my own lived experiences, through taking a number of gender/sexuality courses, and reading up on shit. i would hope you can understand that your definition of queer and its limits / possibilities probably differs from my own. i’m not really sure how you claim to know my personal history so intimately, but in some ways you’re right, in the definitions of categories like lesbian or bisexual from a public health standpoint, no, i don’t really fit into an “LGBT” box. i identify personally as about a 3 on the kinsey scale, and i’ve also had a very queer upbringing (if you want to fight me on that one some more we can talk, tldr my mom is gay and ive been raised by a very gay community, and yes im using gay here as shorthand for LGBTQetc.) and identity formation from my childhood. ive also had many discussions about my sexuality with people close to me that a lot of people would classify as coming out.
sidenote: i am very aware of my whitepassing and cisgender status, i dont really get why you’re trying to enlighten me by bringing those facts to my attention…?
also feel free to come off anon and discuss these things with me further, thinking and talking about gender and sexuality is seriously most of what i do with my time. hope this doesn’t come off as defensive or dismissive, but i thought i would give a bit longer of an explanation because i did throw the term queer around a bit in a post a made a few days ago without really being “out” on tumblr. you also seem to know me in real life or at least follow my tumblr v. closely by the info included in the question, so i’d appreciate and be open to you coming to me to discuss this in a more personal way.
Everyday I evolve another step towards my truest actualized form: Chloe of “Lily’s Disneyland Surprise!” #skeptical #college